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[messenger]

im trying

[bakudan_bambino]

ok

[messenger]

im sorry, gokudera

i was just trying to explain why im not in the city

[bakudan_bambino]

I get it

So you need help finding a contract?

[messenger]

i need help learning how to live in a city like this, among humans
i need to know what's expected of me
and how to act

[bakudan_bambino]

get a contract and have your dom teach you

[messenger]

um
okay

[bakudan_bambino]

We need to get you a Dominant to contract with first

There are humans all over the place. Ask me more specific questions and I can help.

As far as expectations go there are different ones and I’m not really interested in what the fuck the city wants.

And I can’t just know what other people expect so it’s not something I can tell you anyways.

[messenger]

i don't just mean this city specifically
i mean... in general
i haven't lived as a human very long, and it's been years since then

[bakudan_bambino]

okay

Well I don’t know what it’s like to not be human so again specific questions will get you better answers

[messenger]

i don't have any right now
but i will
if it's okay to ask

[bakudan_bambino]

yeah

I hope that you do

Questions are good.

[messenger]

i was only human for three months
so i have a lot to learn
it can be difficult cohabiting, especially since im not human now
but im being forced to live like one

[bakudan_bambino]

alright

I have no idea what that’s like

What makes it difficult?

[messenger]

well, i don't sleep, or eat
or experience emotions the same way that you do
social cues often elude me
things like how much personal space is appropriate
or how to greet someone
a "high-five" is a standard greeting but i've never been sure the appropriate context, for instance

[bakudan_bambino]

that sucks

Personal space is usually at an arms length without having to strain to hear a discussion or yell to project during conversation. Being within another’s personal space is indicative of familiarity, trust, intimacy, and comfort.

High-fives are friendly or jovial, so would be unacceptable during business, where most will nod, shake hands, or bow.

[messenger]

i've been told i have a habit of standing too close. i try to remember, but it's easy to forget

do you do a lot of business here?

[bakudan_bambino]

Maybe try holding out your hand for a shake and keep that as a guide for your personal space.

This will show that you are considerate.

I guess I do a fair amount… hand shakes are also suitable for introductions, same as a bow (bowing is common where I’m from in Japan)

[messenger]

i'll do that
i like to look at people up close
but it isn't necessary

i see. i've given handshakes before

[ does he know how to give a proper handshake? no. ]

[bakudan_bambino]

In moments where you feel compelled to look at someone up close, greet them first and then you can focus on a part of them you'd like to look at.

Say for example I want to get a better look at your face, and feel cmopelled to be in your space, I will say something like 'what color are your eyes' and then lean in to get a better look. That ways the person I'm trying to get a better look of knows why I am in their space. Just know, if you don't ask permission, and barge right in, you won't always be well-received.

you can demonstrate what you know to be a handshake on me when we see each other next?

[messenger]

[ it's a lot to take in, but he'll do his best. ]

okay.
is that what you do?

[bakudan_bambino]

is what what I do?

[messenger]

when you want to be close to someone? is that the strategy you use?
you seem friendly with a lot of people so maybe you don't have to?

[bakudan_bambino]

No

I don’t feel the need to look at people up close.

It’s different for each person. Typically it’s on the network first, rather than being in person.

Sometimes I will buy them a drink and ask how they are, learn more about them.

I feel like everyone here has a different story to tell, and I like learning about things. I like to get genuinely interested y’know…

Never gonna know how long they’ll be around for.

So I’m taking a lot of time just being grateful.

[messenger]

i see

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i think i can understand, at least a little
i've been around for so long
and i'll outlive everyone i know
most of the time, i don't feel it's fair to get involved, particularly with my duties to consider
it makes me a poor friend because i can't really be around
things are different here, but i'm not sure how different